Dating out of your comfort zone

25-Oct-2018 02:31

Often, the biggest challenge for us is saying important things to those we care about—making ourselves vulnerable by sharing our real thoughts and feelings. It’s fear that usually holds us back—but fear of what? As they say, you don’t decide to fall in love with a person, it just happens.And sometimes, this person might just be outside that neat little boundary you’ve drawn for yourself.

Why would I want to upset my apple cart and step outside my comfort zone? YOU are the one who will grow from these experiences and the growth is pretty cool because it is growth in learning something totally new, experiencing something completely different, and gaining additional confidence as you open more doors.But often our habits and routines keep us stuck in the proverbial “comfort zone.” The term refers to doing things the same way all the time, choosing the safe and predictable path, and avoiding situations that cause your anxiety to rise. Small steps lead to bigger ones, so try simple changes like taking a different route to work, getting up an hour earlier, and striking up a conversation with a stranger. Date beyond your “typical type.” Of course you’re attracted to a certain kind of person for a reason. Everyone’s life is the collection of all the decisions we make, large and small. The way to stay stuck—as a person, lover, or employee—is to drift along with the status quo. If you’re ready for positive changes that lead to a richer life—including your love life–start here: 1. Every time you play it safe, you’re giving up something in return. But love might be waiting in a different kind of package and profile. The way to grow is to continually push yourself, despite inner resistance. Stepping into unfamiliar territory will involve missteps. So when it comes to movies, cuisine, music, books, and television shows, intentionally shift to the opposite of your typical fare. Give yourself permission to feel awkward and look clumsy.

Why would I want to upset my apple cart and step outside my comfort zone? YOU are the one who will grow from these experiences and the growth is pretty cool because it is growth in learning something totally new, experiencing something completely different, and gaining additional confidence as you open more doors.

But often our habits and routines keep us stuck in the proverbial “comfort zone.” The term refers to doing things the same way all the time, choosing the safe and predictable path, and avoiding situations that cause your anxiety to rise. Small steps lead to bigger ones, so try simple changes like taking a different route to work, getting up an hour earlier, and striking up a conversation with a stranger. Date beyond your “typical type.” Of course you’re attracted to a certain kind of person for a reason. Everyone’s life is the collection of all the decisions we make, large and small. The way to stay stuck—as a person, lover, or employee—is to drift along with the status quo.

If you’re ready for positive changes that lead to a richer life—including your love life–start here: 1. Every time you play it safe, you’re giving up something in return. But love might be waiting in a different kind of package and profile. The way to grow is to continually push yourself, despite inner resistance.

Stepping into unfamiliar territory will involve missteps.

So when it comes to movies, cuisine, music, books, and television shows, intentionally shift to the opposite of your typical fare. Give yourself permission to feel awkward and look clumsy.

It could be because I spent a few days outside – fresh air, amazing views, lots of laughter with great friends (and I didn’t have to worry about fixing dinner for 4 nights! There is something about challenging yourself, and doing something a bit different that gives you confidence, an edge, and a sense of accomplishment that does wonders for your personal growth.